The Value of Friendship

The Value of Friendship: A Call to Build and Cherish Relationships By Rev. Ernest Odogba Proverbs 18:24 “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Do you have friends? I’m asking if you truly have people in your life beyond casual acquaintances—whether coworkers, church members, or prayer partners. Friendships are relationships built on shared activities and mutual trust. Unfortunately, some people shy away from friendships, claiming they cannot trust anyone. This attitude often stems from their own lack of friendliness and inability to build trust. The Bible teaches that love “believes all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7), which should guide us in forming and keeping friendships. A friend is someone you know well, hold in high regard, and trust. There’s wisdom in the saying, “Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are.” Even Jesus had relationships with His disciples, eventually calling them His friends (John 15:15). Scripture does not discourage friendship but warns against ungodly associations. If you lack friends, it may indicate you’re not showing yourself friendly, as Proverbs 18:24 suggests. Many people struggle to maintain friendships due to quarrels, fights, or bad manners that push others away. Remember, a king is honored by his people, and your circle of friends reflects your influence and values. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up.” Do you value the friends you have? Don’t push them away—it reduces your influence and weakens your support system. If you find fault with everyone, it may be time to self-reflect. The inability to maintain long-term friendships often indicates a lack of friendliness. Learn to trust and regard people. Walk with them in mutual understanding. Avoid jealousy, suspicion, and envy, which only isolate you further. A free and loving heart attracts love in return. Embrace the beauty of friendship—it is God’s design for life.