Forgiveness and Reconciliation: A Call to Sacrificial Love

Forgiveness and Reconciliation: A Call to Sacrificial Love By Rev Ernest Odogba Bible Reference: Matthew 5:23-24 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.” Forgiveness is not just about having peace in your own heart toward someone; it is also about ensuring that the other person does not hold any offense against you. If you realize that someone is hurt by something you said or did, it is your responsibility to reach out and settle the matter. This act of reconciliation is necessary for your prayers to be effective and for your relationship with God to remain strong. Thinking, “He is the one who hurt me; he should apologize first,” or, “I did nothing wrong, so I don’t need to take any action,” reflects ignorance of Scripture. The one who becomes aware of the offense, regardless of who is at fault, should take the first step toward peace. Delaying reconciliation not only hinders your spiritual growth but also strains your relationship with the Holy Spirit. Never involve others to fight on your behalf or to take sides in your conflict. Instigating others—intentionally or unintentionally—extends the issue and fosters division. Even if others take offense or act on what you shared, the responsibility lies with you for stirring the situation. For the sake of peace, do not let others’ disputes influence your own relationships. Keep your heart free of all bitterness or offenses, as living in peace with others is the highest calling. Forgiveness is not just about your own freedom—it is also about ensuring the other person has a free and peaceful heart toward you. Walk in love, and strive to avoid causing offense to anyone. Sacrificial love, which reflects God’s heart, means taking responsibility and even accepting blame for the sake of peace. As Scripture teaches, “Do all things without grumbling or disputing” (Philippians 2:14), and let love guide all your actions.